While transitioning through phases of
life, certain times we come across situations where it becomes difficult for us
to categorize our decisions as authentic or vague. These situations arise with
various relations we have with a number of people. These situations are common
to all without any status preferences, for we all have emotions and issues
related to those and those are perfectly natural to come.
The point is, how we tackle such
situations, how can we at least stay satisfied with our decision?
The thing which acts as an influencer to
our decision is our emotions at that very point, we usually value our emotions
more than critical analysis. Overwhelming emotions are the major reason for
wrong decisions. If we prefer using our critical skills with a cool mind and
consider a long-term idea, the outcome can be quite better.
Emotional relationships, as the name says,
have a major base on emotions, with a little or even no support base on practicality.
Parents, friends, love relations, etc. are a common example of these. Emotional
relations can be one-sided too, others might not have an emotional approach or
might have lost it due to some loose ends. These situations can be vulnerable
to emotional setbacks.
Emotions have a tendency to overlook the
actual or on-field positions of a person. A person’s life is not just dependent
on one person, many more lives are attached. Emotions can force a person to
just think for oneself, even leading to no room for another person’s aspirations.
Emotions are undoubtedly the most important factor of a relation, but having the practical or critical approach can even strengthen the bonds to a great extent.
This tends to promote mutual understanding and clarification of personal issues.
At times, we interact with some people,
with whom we develop an emotional relation due to their initial behavior, but
after some time they tend to use us for their purposes. We might judge a person
quite differently on initial interaction, the assumption might be correct or
incorrect, it is always better to consider a person’s body language (actions
speak more than words).
It is very common to find people having
emotional approaches and frank attitudes to suffering from emotional setbacks.
What I personally believe, critical analysis of every situation that arises
with each person is required for avoiding loose ends and misunderstandings. The
point is, we don’t know what a person thinks in his midst.
So how can we probably trust anybody?
Should we trust no one?
Answering this question is quite easy: your
parents are one of the most caring personalities whom you can trust, no matter
how mad they get at you in some situations, they are the one who considers you
more than anybody.
This question becomes quite debatable if
you consider your friends and love relations for this position. A good friend
is who understands you or even, at least, tries his level best to do so. Friends
who stand up for you during your difficult times are equal to a million precious
diamonds, the people with whom you should try to maintain the same enthusiasm
for a lifetime.
Relations are meant to bring joy not to be
a burden, make sure you leave when they become an uncontrollable pain. Setbacks
are there in every relation, this is the point where questions relating self-respect
and ego enter.
Misunderstandings do occur, finding the cause
instead of letting emotions rule the game is the key. Analyzing mistakes, with
unbiased opinions about oneself and the other person, is necessary. Now, if at
this point you find your mistake, it is your duty to accept it instead of stretching
the ends. If you stretch the things up, you are indeed following your ego, there
is no point of self-respect in here.
Ego and self-respect are quite confusing
for oneself and the society around us. There’s a narrow line of separation
between the two, ego it is just consideration of oneself without considering
the feeling of another person for you, whereas the case is a bit different in self-respect.
Self-respect is based on the effects of other person’s attitude on you when
you lose people because of discomfort due to their long-term attitude towards
you, you are doing the right thing. Such a decision has very little chance of
producing reasonable regrets. Superficial regrets due to emotions are
common in the transition phase, but one has to understand the positive effects
of such decisions.
After a decision is taken with proper
analysis and deep conversations with oneself, make sure to stay firm on it. But
always remember, time has the potential to transform people and introduce drastic
changes. Always have a room for forgiveness, after considering the present
interactions and many careful observations, you would definitely not prefer the same
bumpy road again.
(Community views are welcomed in the comment section)
